What are your relationship values? What questions would you ask? What is the benchmark you would use?
With each person with whom you have relationship with, I would recommend you construct a reference with each individual's core strengths as a guide. Here are some suggestions that will start the process of framing a conversation.
Explain the reason why you are having this conversation. Be very clear expressing your intent. Be an active listener and ask follow up questions that start with how, why, where, what, and when.
If possible, ask for an example of a time that will illustrate the concern. Ask for help if clarification is needed. Only make promises that are obtainable. Recognize behaviors that show a positive effort towards achieving the goal.
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